Love Experience Pt. 2

As I'm sitting here on a Thursday morning, I'm listening to Chrisette Michele. I'm a creature of habit so every morning, regardless of what I have planned for the day, I play music, watch CNN or Fox News, have a cup of coffee and start my day (I know, sounds rather old for a 27 year old to do). Chrisette's album is awesome from beginning to end! One song in particular I have a preference over more than others is "Golden". I'm not married nor am I in a relationship (nowhere near) so I cannot sympathize with her lyrics but I can understand where she is coming from. Marriage these days are either "for the kids" or business arrangements...believe me I know, I have friends in those type arrangements. Many who get married seldom take the time to value their love for another or take notice to the committment level each should possess.

Times have certainly changed from the old days to now. You hear of most of your uncles or parents clebrating their 40th, 50th or sometimes 60th anniversary. Although many of them married extremelyl young, you still rarely find a lot marriages who last their 10th year mark. I'm pretty urban, even trendy at times but I am old-fashioned when it comes to tradition, values, and morale... a lot of my generation lacks that. Marriage and committment should revolve around GOD and LOVE. Even the dating scene is ridiculous these days. You meet men who are either already married or in a relationship, unsure of their sexual preference, or who is only out for one thing...and you know what I'm talking about, LOL. We as a generation do not even honor the center of what dating (or shall I go old school and say "courting") really is about and what it is for. Honestly, I haven't dated in years (that's funny with me being 27). The men I meet and have known wouldn't constitute as a date...and dare I go there and count how many even knew what chivalry was. Not saying real men aren't out there...I just haven't ran into them in a long time, LOL.

I would go out on a limb and say that one of the reasons our interpretation on marriage and relationships is ill-advised has a lot to do with what see on television and in our society...but that's another topic and another can of worms. I'm young, easy on the eyes (yes, I'm hot, LOL), educated, God-fearing, well-rounded, and easygoing. I encounter people all of the time asking me why I am single... "what's wrong with you" they ask. Nothing's wrong with me or wrong with the other 45% of Black women with the same criteria as mine. I choose to be single because I refuse to settle for inconsistency and intolerance that men today have. I refuse to settle for the lack of love we have. Black Love is not dead but its suffering from a terminal illness. I see few Huxtable type relationships and more Whitney/Bobby marriages (anyone cool with what Whitney and Bobby had should be get a big open handed smack in the mouth!)

As I put track 8 on repeat...I'm so with Chrisette of going back to the day when it was indeed Golden.